To attain true peace, a person must be willing to always judge his or her fellow favorably. He must learn to find good in others and to overlook the bad.
And, even when the other person says or does something against him, he must search for the good, or accept that the other harbored no evil intentions against him.
—Kitzur Likutey Moharan, Lesson 33
We all have the occasional rocky relationship. But if we seem to be constantly dogged by difficult people, it may be time to turn inwards.
Relationships can be our most faithful teachers and can reveal to us our authentic self. They do this by being our mirrors—in the reflection of contentious relationships we are able to see our own inner conflicts.
Warning: Objects In Mirror Are Closer Than They Appear.
On the most basic level, when we look into the face of our friends and colleagues, we see ourselves. Continue reading How To Deal With Difficult People
There are no coincidences.
Every event in our life has meaning—whether we are able to connect the dots or not. Every sight we see, every person we meet, even every word we hear, exists to help us draw closer to our true purpose.* Continue reading What’s A Breslover?
A person who is always happy, succeeds.—Sefer Hamiddos, The Book of Attributes (The Aleph-Bet Book)
People believe that when they become “successful”, then they’ll be happy.
Rebbe Nachman of Breslov says the opposite is true. Being joyful, encouraging yourself to be happy, looking for things to feel positive about—these are what lead to success.
If we look at successful people, some are happy, many are not. That’s proof that success does not necessarily lead to happiness. Continue reading Happiness Leads To Success
To find joy is the hardest thing of all. It is harder than all other spiritual tasks…Put all your energy into being happy. — Rebbe Nachman of Breslov
The Rebbe tells us that, if need be, we should force ourselves to be happy.
Of course, this advice is not politically correct. From today’s psychological viewpoint, forcing yourself to be happy is wrong. It’s denial. Better to be miserable. Continue reading Joy–Your Spiritual Task
Rosh Hashana is the day of judgment for all humankind. It is the anniversary of the creation of Adam and Eve—in other words, the birthday of everyone’s great, great, great (and so on), grandparents. It is a day of awe and fear and also a day of celebration.
Rosh Hashana is also a day of great self-awareness. It is a time to recognize who we are as individuals, as members of a community and the Jewish people, and as members of humanity. It is a day to invest fully in becoming aware of our relationship with God.
Pretty heady stuff for us mere mortals. But we know that God doesn’t give us anything impossible to do. So, how do we “get there?” Continue reading Rosh Hashana & Self-Awareness