The Way To Win (For Real)

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Winning isn’t everything. It’s the only thing. —Vince Lombardi

If you want to find Truth you must rid yourself of the desire for victory. —Rebbe Nachman of Breslov

Rebbe Nachman teaches that the urge to be victorious is a trait that cannot co-exist with truth. He says that a person who yearns to understand and experience truth, must discard her desire for winning.

But competition is what drives this world (and the economy, nations, and many individuals.) Besting others, at sport, politics or war, seems to be what this grand race called life is all about. Isn’t it? Continue reading The Way To Win (For Real)

Are There Breslov Mantras?

1280px-Goe_Platz_der_Synagoge_DetailDear BreslovWoman,

In the phone class on how to take control of our thoughts, you asked us to choose lines from Tehillim (Psalms), the siddur (prayer book), or even our own thoughts. We would use these as “replacement thoughts” anytime we’re having a negative thought.

I know what kinds of negative thoughts I have frequently. But I can’t decide what kinds of thoughts I need to replace them with. I’ve looked in books and tried to write my own, but it’s not working.

I want to stop the repetitive negative worried thoughts I have every day. Please help me – I need some new thoughts!

Aren’t there any Breslov sayings I could use?

Worried in NJ


Dear Worried,

I love the Change Your Thoughts; Change Your Life workshop because it gives easy, practical Breslov tools you can use to make your life better.

But I’m always up for making things even simpler. Continue reading Are There Breslov Mantras?

Music And Joy Can Help You Talk To God

Sterling2_4728aaMusic and joy can help you to pour out your words like water before God. Continue reading Music And Joy Can Help You Talk To God

What To Look For In A Husband (Short-ish Version)

1269851278Many years ago a wise person I know said that you and a prospective spouse should be able to connect in certain ways. These types of connection are: Continue reading What To Look For In A Husband (Short-ish Version)

Take Three: Do You Have An Identity Crisis?

Change Your Thoughts–Change Your Life. Really.

Fairytale Forest - SunburstYikes. I forgot to press “record” for the mini phone-workshop on “Healing Your Emotions with the Teachings of Rebbe Nachman of Breslov” last night. So, I’m posting a few notes from the discussion:

Hashem wants our hearts. Our hearts are the seat of our feelings, our minds are the home of our thoughts.

Most people feel that their thoughts and/or feelings just “happen.” They do not realize that they can decide what to think and by doing so, transform negative feelings to positive feelings.

Our thoughts precede our feelings, not the other way around. Sometimes it may seem like we just suddenly feel something, whether positive or negative, but because the process happens so quickly, we don’t realize that the thought comes first.

In order to change our emotional reality, we must first  Continue reading Change Your Thoughts–Change Your Life. Really.

Take Three: Come Closer To God With Joy